Do people in your life define you?

A few days ago I started thinking how much actually people around us affect our behavior and then I began to analyse that thought through my everyday life.

It’s not uncommon to use certain phrases a lot, but when you really think about where some of those actual phrases came, you can see that you often pick them up from people you are hanging around on every day basis. You can sometimes find yourself pronouncing something as your friend would, maybe even using that one word he or she always puts into a conversation. Also in that package comes copying of their body language. (But copying isn’t the right word for that situation, you are going to find out why later in this text). Even habits belong into this category, like smoking.

Why does that happen? Well, there is a term in psychology called observational learning (or more directly translated from my language to learning by modelling). There are more types of observational learning: modelling, imitation, learning by observing and symbolic learning. Every type is explained in great details in my psychology textbook, but I am not going to bore your with that. Usually this kind of learning is used to teach little kids how to do something, per example how to brush their teeth and that is imitation because the person is imitating someone without understanding what does that behaviour mean. Child is brushing its teeth because it has seen its parents doing so. That is why the right word is imitating, we are in reality imitating the people we are close with. Not on purpose (mostly), but because we are affected by their presence and they by ours.

So today I have indeed explained (like an amateur) how society uses social learning theories and how much people in you life define who you are.


  SO GOOD BYE FOR NOW, MY FRIENDS (if anyone is even reading)