13 Reasons Why – why it is so special

I am sure a lot of you heard about this title recently, since Netflix dropped the season some time ago. It was based on a book written a couple of years ago and it was first meant to be made into a movie, but thank God it is a series because it has so much going on that I don’t think anyone can catch up in two hours.


What I wanted to talk to you about today is why this show is so special and why you should watch it if you didn’t already. I am not going to mention any spoilers so you are safe to read further.

This show is ab13-reasons-why_0.jpgout a girl named Hannah Baker who was bullied and misunderstood in her high-school. She killed herself and the story actually starts and ends with her suicide. Before she killed herself she made 13 taped explaining the reasons why she killed herself, people who caused her to do so. We are actually following Clay, Hannah’s coworker and let’s say friend, getting the tapes and listening to them one by one and revealing us what has happened in Hannah’s life since she moved to this high-school until her death.  That is all the basic information you need to get the just of this show, now let’s start with what I meant to write today.

So 13 Reasons Why. A show like nothing I have ever seen before. Not only it shows suicide, but also rape, bullying, lying, sexuality and most of all the lost life of a teenager. All topics mentioned in various shows and movies but never like this. It is so raw and real that by watching it you are so aware that this is so real, this is something that is happening right now to someone you don’t know, and something that has happened to someone you know but you have no idea about it.
What I was personally most surprised about was the scene from the last episode. The scene we all knew was going to happen, even you who just have read the short overview I have written above. The scene that shows how Hannah actually killed herself. And I mean really shows it. I have never seen something like that shown anywhere, not in dramas, not in shows with medical or criminal background not anywhere. The act of slitting your wrists sound so scary to most of us, but seeing this scene on my screen I was terrified, I was moved, I was shaken to my core. Seeing Hannah’s obvious pain that she considered the last and ultimate option that she has to take woke me up like a cold shower. I understand why this was made. Any suicidal person who has watched the show and especially that scene would be so shaken that he or she would reconsider everything he or she thought about, including me.
Also a thing about this show that is great is showing how much human interaction and contact is important. And how much people actually affect one another on a everyday basis. Those 13 people Hannah mentions as her reasons, they are not all aware they did something so awful to this girl, most of them don’t even think about their actions once they do them. No body cares, until she is dead. No body but Clay.
Show also to me represents what a lack of communication can do. People often just assume what the other person is thinking, or are too scared to say what they want, resulting in a lot of important things being left unsaid. A lot of problems in everyday life are caused by lack of communication and compassion. This show also presents how people have become number as a result of having technology and hiding behind it. I think that’s the reasons the author choose tapes as a media through which Hannah speaks to people who have hurt her, which is genius when you stop and think about it.
Something very important that was highlighted was that even if you did not say no it doesn’t mean that it isn’t rape, it certainly doesn’t mean that you want it. Consent is a real thing people! Especially when a person isn’t able to say no, or when a person is trying to get away without saying no. Just because you want something or you feel entitled to something it doesn’t mean it is yours to take. This is a real issue, and I guess it isn’t talked about enough since a lot of people have no idea what consent means. It also talks about teenagers pressuring their partners about having sex and the whole slut shaming thing that happens in every highs school around the world. It shows how different an untrue rumour about a girl is treated with an abominable amount of slut shaming, but when it comes to a guy raping it is covered up.
All in all it is an interesting show to watch, but also a really hard one. I really recommend it to everyone and I already talked all my friends into watching it. I haven’t yet heard or read anything negative about the show, but most importantly I couldn’t find something negative about it myself. If you have already watched it or you just started watching it leave your opinion about the show in the comments below!
Thank you for reading and for your attention (this was probably one of my longest post ever), I hope I have at least presented you something interesting to read if nothing else. If I made you want to see this show right away please let me know in the comments as well and mention why exactly!

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Social equality?

A society that treats everyone the same, as equals. Is that just a utopia or a real possibility that could happen in the future of human kind?

I think everyone can agree that we live in a cruel world where justice rarely happens. Our world is homophobic and racist, women are treated as less and paid less than men. Now, especially considering recent events with terrorist attacks, a question has risen in our minds. What is necessary for an equal society?
Pessimistic views on this question are common, so there are a lot of people who do not believe in a possibility of a better world. The idea of something so ideal and perfect is too hard to comprehend to some, resulting in people not even trying to change anything that is wrong with this world. Also, a lot of people who watched someone being treated unfairly or even put down for an unjust reason, have lost their belief in all humanity and in all good that this world has to offer. Some also do not want to fight for the better world because they think nothing is going to change because nothing has changed for centuries, which is a dangerously wrong opinion.

On the other hand ones that do believe in such a possibility try to change the world everyday. People like this have seen how revolutions, rebellions and protest have changed the world through history, from racial segregation in South Africa and USA, to women rights in UK, USA, France and all over Europe. They believe that if enough people stand up together for the same cause they will change history, they will make this world a better place.  That is why today there are a lot of protest like Black Lives Matter and LGBTQ+ parades all over the world. Not to forget the importance of celebrities that stand proud as feminists, LGBTQ+ members or supporters, who in that way send a message of peace and equality.

For the conclusion, there will always be people who fight for what they believe in, here for a better world. In the same way, there will always be people who do not fight for that since they do not believe in it. The important thing is that people who believe in such a possibility have changed and still are changing the world step by step.

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Feelings

A lot of people run away from their own feelings, including myself and maybe you – the person reading this. Running away can be detected in various ways. You can pretend what you are feeling isn’t real. Also, you can refuse to fathom your feelings, to split it to their essence. Of course you can always literally run away from your feelings. You can “block” yourself from feeling something, or better said, you can block yourself from showing those feelings.

It’s a shitty world, I know. Everyone wants to protect themselves from getting emotionally hurt. But think about it, if you do these things to prevent yourself from getting hurt, feeling hurt, pain, sadness, unhappiness etc. you are also limiting the amount of great feelings that make our life worth living.

Tears are not just from sadness, are they? Laughing or smiling isn’t always a showcase of a happy emotion. Pain isn’t necessarily bad. Forget now for just a second what you learned about positive and negative emotions and feelings. Life is about finding exceptions to the rules. No one should go through life looking it in black and white, defining something as purely good or purely bad without any mix between those contrasted emotions. So dare to feel.

I think this is enough said about this topic, and I hope I left you wanting to think about what I said here. If you want to add something or even tell me I am wrong, I welcome you to do so in the comments bellow.
Thank you for reading!

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What it takes

If you are a writer (any kind; if you do it as a hobby or as some kind of a paid job), you might stop every now and then to ask yourself what it takes to be a good writer.

Sometimes I am torn between writing what I want and what I think readers will want to read, as I believe every writer is. Staying true to yourself, writing about stuff you want and keeping your readers happy and wanting more is already such a hard combo. But is that all it takes to be a good writer, I had to wonder?

I don’t necessarily think there is a right formula or that anyone can be interested in all I or someone else writes. But I guess there is a certain thing that makes some writers more compelling to the masses and what makes them have that x-factor with which they stand out in the sea of wannabe famous writers.

Of course that some topics are more… let’s say noticeable, like sex, when compared to others. Sex sells, everyone knows that saying and we have a lot of real examples of that even in writers (50 Shades of Grey being the obvious one), still writing about sex is not part of the good writer formula. Firstly, because good writers are not automatically those who are being read more.

And then, on the other hand, having the skill of writing is also not the biggest quality it takes to be a good writer. Because let’s be honest, something can be well written but boring to read or have no real purpose.

So, to conclude this weird thing-of-a-post, maybe I should list some things that can help get you (and me) closer to the title of a good writer.

A good writer needs his or hers (or its/theirs, we are pro all genders here) own voice, that cannot be shut down easily and that can be recognised effortlessly.
A good writer should write about what he/she/it/they want but that topic should either be at least a bit popular or advertise in some manner on pages (or whatever) that are specific to that topic, so the people you are writing to/about/for can actually see it.
A good writer can write about controversial topics (that is welcomed actually), but only in a way where they are not attacking someone else and where they have their own opinion and an explanation that is not hurting anyone in a major way.
A good writer writes when inspiration strikes and knows how to break the horrible writer’s block.
A good writer interacts with the public and readers.
A good writer knows why he/she/it/they are writing.
A good writer lays in all of us.

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About writer’s block

I really love writing and the sound of my fingers hitting the keyboard. But for a long time I felt stuck, no topic to write about came to my head. Isn’t it crazy that writer’s block even exists? There are so many aspects of life we can talk about, so many day to day ideas that go through are head but somehow nothing worth writing about.

Maybe the problem is not realising the worth in something ordinary, something raw and simple. I have been told countless times that I complicate things by trying to make them simple, so writing about simple and ordinary things in life should be a challenge of its own. But still I don’t do it.

I guess I let myself be affected by what others say about me, about my photography, about my blogging. I don’t think that anyone in my life fully understands how important this blog is to me. My friends do not see why I get so excited when someone contacts me to work with them or to say how good my work is, they find it funny and they find me delusional. They might even be right, but it is up to me to decide. I should not let others stop me from doing something I truely love and something that makes me better and sane just because they don’t understand it.

And yes, I do write like no one will ever read this, because I am writing this for myself, to help me through somethings because that is the reason why I am still here today. Also this is the way to take writer’s block in your hands and throw it outside the window screen – just write, write about not knowing what to write, write about the first thing that comes to your mind. Write for yourself!

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