13 Reasons Why – why it is so special

I am sure a lot of you heard about this title recently, since Netflix dropped the season some time ago. It was based on a book written a couple of years ago and it was first meant to be made into a movie, but thank God it is a series because it has so much going on that I don’t think anyone can catch up in two hours.

What I wanted to talk to you about today is why this show is so special and why you should watch it if you didn’t already. I am not going to mention any spoilers so you are safe to read further.

This show is ab13-reasons-why_0.jpgout a girl named Hannah Baker who was bullied and misunderstood in her high-school. She killed herself and the story actually starts and ends with her suicide. Before she killed herself she made 13 taped explaining the reasons why she killed herself, people who caused her to do so. We are actually following Clay, Hannah’s coworker and let’s say friend, getting the tapes and listening to them one by one and revealing us what has happened in Hannah’s life since she moved to this high-school until her death.  That is all the basic information you need to get the just of this show, now let’s start with what I meant to write today.

So 13 Reasons Why. A show like nothing I have ever seen before. Not only it shows suicide, but also rape, bullying, lying, sexuality and most of all the lost life of a teenager. All topics mentioned in various shows and movies but never like this. It is so raw and real that by watching it you are so aware that this is so real, this is something that is happening right now to someone you don’t know, and something that has happened to someone you know but you have no idea about it.
What I was personally most surprised about was the scene from the last episode. The scene we all knew was going to happen, even you who just have read the short overview I have written above. The scene that shows how Hannah actually killed herself. And I mean really shows it. I have never seen something like that shown anywhere, not in dramas, not in shows with medical or criminal background not anywhere. The act of slitting your wrists sound so scary to most of us, but seeing this scene on my screen I was terrified, I was moved, I was shaken to my core. Seeing Hannah’s obvious pain that she considered the last and ultimate option that she has to take woke me up like a cold shower. I understand why this was made. Any suicidal person who has watched the show and especially that scene would be so shaken that he or she would reconsider everything he or she thought about, including me.
Also a thing about this show that is great is showing how much human interaction and contact is important. And how much people actually affect one another on a everyday basis. Those 13 people Hannah mentions as her reasons, they are not all aware they did something so awful to this girl, most of them don’t even think about their actions once they do them. No body cares, until she is dead. No body but Clay.
Show also to me represents what a lack of communication can do. People often just assume what the other person is thinking, or are too scared to say what they want, resulting in a lot of important things being left unsaid. A lot of problems in everyday life are caused by lack of communication and compassion. This show also presents how people have become number as a result of having technology and hiding behind it. I think that’s the reasons the author choose tapes as a media through which Hannah speaks to people who have hurt her, which is genius when you stop and think about it.
Something very important that was highlighted was that even if you did not say no it doesn’t mean that it isn’t rape, it certainly doesn’t mean that you want it. Consent is a real thing people! Especially when a person isn’t able to say no, or when a person is trying to get away without saying no. Just because you want something or you feel entitled to something it doesn’t mean it is yours to take. This is a real issue, and I guess it isn’t talked about enough since a lot of people have no idea what consent means. It also talks about teenagers pressuring their partners about having sex and the whole slut shaming thing that happens in every highs school around the world. It shows how different an untrue rumour about a girl is treated with an abominable amount of slut shaming, but when it comes to a guy raping it is covered up.
All in all it is an interesting show to watch, but also a really hard one. I really recommend it to everyone and I already talked all my friends into watching it. I haven’t yet heard or read anything negative about the show, but most importantly I couldn’t find something negative about it myself. If you have already watched it or you just started watching it leave your opinion about the show in the comments below!
Thank you for reading and for your attention (this was probably one of my longest post ever), I hope I have at least presented you something interesting to read if nothing else. If I made you want to see this show right away please let me know in the comments as well and mention why exactly!

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Social equality?

A society that treats everyone the same, as equals. Is that just a utopia or a real possibility that could happen in the future of human kind?

I think everyone can agree that we live in a cruel world where justice rarely happens. Our world is homophobic and racist, women are treated as less and paid less than men. Now, especially considering recent events with terrorist attacks, a question has risen in our minds. What is necessary for an equal society?
Pessimistic views on this question are common, so there are a lot of people who do not believe in a possibility of a better world. The idea of something so ideal and perfect is too hard to comprehend to some, resulting in people not even trying to change anything that is wrong with this world. Also, a lot of people who watched someone being treated unfairly or even put down for an unjust reason, have lost their belief in all humanity and in all good that this world has to offer. Some also do not want to fight for the better world because they think nothing is going to change because nothing has changed for centuries, which is a dangerously wrong opinion.

On the other hand ones that do believe in such a possibility try to change the world everyday. People like this have seen how revolutions, rebellions and protest have changed the world through history, from racial segregation in South Africa and USA, to women rights in UK, USA, France and all over Europe. They believe that if enough people stand up together for the same cause they will change history, they will make this world a better place.  That is why today there are a lot of protest like Black Lives Matter and LGBTQ+ parades all over the world. Not to forget the importance of celebrities that stand proud as feminists, LGBTQ+ members or supporters, who in that way send a message of peace and equality.

For the conclusion, there will always be people who fight for what they believe in, here for a better world. In the same way, there will always be people who do not fight for that since they do not believe in it. The important thing is that people who believe in such a possibility have changed and still are changing the world step by step.

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Do people in your life define you?

A few days ago I started thinking how much actually people around us affect our behavior and then I began to analyse that thought through my everyday life.

It’s not uncommon to use certain phrases a lot, but when you really think about where some of those actual phrases came, you can see that you often pick them up from people you are hanging around on every day basis. You can sometimes find yourself pronouncing something as your friend would, maybe even using that one word he or she always puts into a conversation. Also in that package comes copying of their body language. (But copying isn’t the right word for that situation, you are going to find out why later in this text). Even habits belong into this category, like smoking.

Why does that happen? Well, there is a term in psychology called observational learning (or more directly translated from my language to learning by modelling). There are more types of observational learning: modelling, imitation, learning by observing and symbolic learning. Every type is explained in great details in my psychology textbook, but I am not going to bore your with that. Usually this kind of learning is used to teach little kids how to do something, per example how to brush their teeth and that is imitation because the person is imitating someone without understanding what does that behaviour mean. Child is brushing its teeth because it has seen its parents doing so. That is why the right word is imitating, we are in reality imitating the people we are close with. Not on purpose (mostly), but because we are affected by their presence and they by ours.

So today I have indeed explained (like an amateur) how society uses social learning theories and how much people in you life define who you are.


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Why I am not sorry

I was very inspired to write this post thanks to
Look Through My Lens, so please check hers out!

We, people, seem to apologize for all sorts of things that we shouldn’t apologize for. And by that the word sorry reduces in its meaning. So today I decided to write some things I am not sorry about.

I am not sorry about being myself and showing the world who I really am.

I am not sorry about being a feminist and for believing in equal rights.

I am not sorry about how I express myself on this blog, because I have freedom to write whatever I want since it is my property.

I am not sorry about being an introvert and needing time to recharge my batteries every now and then.

I am not sorry about spending my time online, whether that is on tumblr, youtube or other blogs, because that is a way for me to learn something new by relaxing.

I am not sorry about not wearing any makeup on my days off, and I am certainly not sorry about how I look.

I am not sorry about things and people I love.

I am not sorry about believing in what I believe, or not believing in something I don’t.

I am not sorry about saying what I mean.

I am not sorry about mistakes that I made that had affected only me.

I am not sorry about spoiling myself a little.

I am not sorry about taking a break when I need one.

I am not sorry about avoiding stress and stressful people.

I am not sorry about being anxious and having anxiety.


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